Coming together in marriage is fulfilling Gods will and purpose. When two people come together in Gods will, they become one while bringing their God given purpose with them within the relationship. When He reveals purpose in one spouses’ life, the marriage gains purpose as well. One goal in marriage is to pray for and support each other to find and walk into their purpose for their life. Passion will help give you direction towards what that purpose is and it will motivate you until you receive the manifestation of your purpose. Purpose will help you fulfill hope and wealth for your future and your marriage.

 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

      Many times spouses argue because of the miscommunication to each other about their passions and purpose. It is your job as a spouse to stay prayerful and ask God to reveal His purpose to you and to give your spouse their designed purpose as well. But….Get Ready! Once your spouses’ passion lines up with his/her purpose, you will notice a shift in your spouse and your marriage. There will be good time and not-so-good times, but they all will ultimately work together for the blessings God has placed over your marriage.

      Part of honoring God in your marriage means to support and push your spouse in fulfilling their purpose. Husbands and wives unite and align on their individual purposes and thus the purpose in marriage. Below are some tips from both Husband and Wife point of view to help your spouse walk in purpose!

 1. BE POSITIVE ABOUT HER IDEAS

      It’s hard to keep passion and purpose still. It will stir in your mind and spirit all day and all through the night. Your always thinking of new ideas and creating new concepts and it’s hard to turn it off. So, when your wife comes to you with what seems to be “another” idea or an “outrageous” concept, be positive, have faith and see light in what she is speaking. Fulfilling purpose requires thinking that will lift you out of your comfort zone and sometimes it will feel inconvenient and uncomfortable.

 2. KEEP HIM MOTIVATED ABOUT HIS PURPOSE

      Fulfilling a greater vision in life will bring times of frustration and failure. When your husband comes into this time, be his motivator. Husband are there to be the providers and to direct their family throughout life’s cycles. Making mistakes while fulfilling purpose can bring on doubt. Since he is born to lead, he can take mistakes as a spiritual and mental defeat. Keep him focused on Gods will for his life and the harvest of blessings waiting for him. Be creative and come to him with your own ideas on how you can help him overcome obstacles. This will reassure him that he’s not in it alone. Also, offer to lead prayer with him as night, pray for his faith and that God rewards his faith for successfully walking through trials. While he is down, this is the most important time to show your support, faith and love for what he believes in.

 3. CREATE AN ATMOSPHERE FOR HER TO DE-STRESS

     Too much stress can be a slow killer of your visions, mind and spirit. Your wife needs a normal level of stress to be able to operate in her purpose. Pay attention to times when your wife is over-extending herself to others or becoming frustrated over certain situations. Learn the things that she does to relax and unwind. Then, take the initiative to make those things available for her. Make it a priority to be sure she has access to her stress relievers.

 4. HIGHLIGHT HIS STRENGTHS TO MINIMIZE HIS WEAKNESSES

     To fulfill purpose it is important to know your strengths and how to utilize them. Get in tune with the areas your husband is the strongest in and expose them, Show him that his strengths are not in knowing everything, but in knowing how to use what he knows and choosing positives to overcome negatives. We all have weaknesses, negatives, and flaws, but they don’t need to have a spotlight. Our imperfections are all a part of our character, personality and ultimately our destiny.

 5. BE HER BIGGEST FAN

     Support goes beyond words alone. Support takes action. Be a part of her greatest journey, which is her God given purpose. Be her cheerleader! Go with her to meetings or appointment. Try your best to be present with her at social and networking functions. Make every effort to make it easy for her to meet deadlines. Talk about her faith walk to others and praise her for her courage to follow Gods purpose over her life. Don’t minimize the smallest victories. When she hits a goal, whether big or small, take the initiative to celebrate BIG!

 6. HAVE HIS BACK WHEN OTHERS DON’T GET IT

     While your husband works to fulfill the purpose in his life he will often come across people who don’t believe in his calling. Don’t allow others to minimize his purpose and passion. Back up what he believes and refrain from letting others think that you fall short in believing in his success. You are his backbone and God gave you to him to hold him straight up when others try to knock him down.

     The most important goal in marriage is to continue praying for each other and for what God has designed for each spouse to be. Prayer will be the most important seed when planting your purpose.

 “For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” (Matt. 18:20)

     Pray that God gives your spouse understanding about this purpose. Pray that He leads and guides them throughout their journey and pray for your spouse’s faith. When your spouse receives understanding and clarity, it will help them with the trials that may come up against and help you walk through it with them. Also, thank God for the blessings He has promised. He has perfectly designed your marriage and only He knows it’s greatest end.

Husband and Wife for Life Founders, 

Mark and Laquilla Lane

BREAK the ROUTINE in 2015!!
       

   Creativity is a key essential in marriage. Don’t be afraid to do things together that are abnormal, out of the ordinary, different, out of your regular routine and spontaneous. Although there are key components to successful marriages that should be followed, outside of that, it is easy to get wrapped up in how a married couple “suppose” to interact or what they should be doing for each other. Your marriage is unique and special and you should treat each other as such.

         For 2015, commit to being creative. Think of new ideas that your spouse would have never thought you would think of. Treat your spouse to a year of something irregular, unusual, uncommon, or just plain out weird. Besides, who want to see and do the same things over, and over, and over and over again?  It’s those new things that create that needed spark, breaks that boring methodical, and helps you gain a new outlook on what your marriage is and what it can become.

        Don’t know where to begin or need ideas? Start with asking your spouse the kind of things he/she likes to do or the things that are really important to him/her. Write them down. This will give you an excellent base for your new commitment of creativity. Let this list become your inspiration to opening up your mind. Ideas can be as simple as asking your spouse to go on a walk with you to the ice cream store or wearing his/her favorite outfit. Or, as grand as flying your spouse on a weekend getaway to a place he/she has always wanted to go or instead of buying their favorite item…….you learn how to make it. Whatever you choose, always remember that the limit on creativity is endless. It is LIMITLESS. So, never think you have done it all. And, don’t make it hard. Any act of creativity, with thought and love, will never go unnoticed and unappreciated. But, you have to try. Start NOW!

Share your Acts Of Creativity (A.O.C.) on our Facebook and Twitter walls throughout the year!

Mark and Laquilla Lane

Celebrating 14 Years!

Even through our ups and downs……..LOVE has always won.

“After we started dating, we talked often about the seriousness of being married. After we were engaged, we both agreed that we were in it for the long-haul. We knew we were meant for each other and that we wanted to grow old together.  Exactly one year after we met…..we were married.”

Husband and Wife for Life is one of the highlights of our life and marriage! We enjoy and are encouraged by watching marriages grow and be blessed! When we are not helping marriages, Mark works hard as a talented entertainment specialist and recruiter, and Laquilla is a stay-at-home/homeschooling mother of two girls. Our daily routine consists of quick texts back and forth during the day and quiet talks at night. With our busy schedules, we look forward to our time alone together….even if it is only for 10min.

After our first girl was born, we suffered a stillborn baby girl during our 36th week of pregnancy. But, God has always been good to us and blessed us again with another gorgeous girl! One has a flare for fashion and other one has a love for shoes. But, it is their love for music that keeps us dancing as much as we can together as a family! It is the connecting link that runs through all of us.

When we are not laughing with the girls, we are laughing with, or at, each other. We make laughing just as important as the romance in our marriage. The more we laugh……

………the more we realize how much we love each other.

And, although we love each other VERY much…….

when it comes to football season……we’re rivals!

Mark is from the east and Laquilla is from the south, so it gets pretty loud in our house on game day! We make it fun and get our girls in on the excitement. One daughter is a Cowboys fan and the other is a Giants fan.

We are lovers of family, life and helping people! We pull our motivation and inspiration from each other, God and the Husband and Wife for Life community of couples from all around the world. God is the center and foundation of our marriage and after our ups and many downs, we’ve learned to put our trust totally in Him.

We are so grateful to be celebrating 14 years of marriage with an incredible community of couples! And, we appreciate each and every one of you that has been placed in our life!

Love, Mark and Laquilla Lane

Husband and Wife for Life Founders

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